Spirit Attachments

The one thing that no human being can escape, regardless of the amount of money they have, size of the house or position they hold in the society, is death. At some stage, we all know that death will become an inevitable part of our human experience. It is surprising therefore, that it still remains a taboo. It is almost as if we believed that if do not talk about it, we might have a chance to make it go away.

But of course, we do not.

We all have some level of experience with death, perhaps a family member or friend, or even a pet has passed away. And for majority of us, this is as close to death as we get during our lives.

But what exactly happens after a soul crosses over? Is it the end or the beginning of life? Where have our loved ones gone?

There are a few possible scenarios as to where a soul can go after a physical death. For the purpose of this article however, we will focus on two most common ones:

1). The soul goes straight to the Light (or what we often refer to as Heaven), where it enters the spirit realms and goes through the process of healing, followed by revision of the last life to be then finally re-united with its soul group.

2). The soul remains earth bound.

In this case, a soul, for a variety of reasons, is not able to let go of the human life that has just ended. Traumatic or sudden death, unresolved issues, loved ones left behind are just some of the examples. Sometimes a soul is confused as to what is happening to it after the body has died. As a result of the confusion it remains convinced that it is still alive. There are also souls who become so disconnected from their Source (Higher Self, Divine) during their life, that they no longer remember or know where to go after death. Others are terrified of dying and that fear is so paralyzing, that it prevents them from moving on.

The soul energies that remain earth-bound will long to find a host -  a living person, a place or even an object which they can attach themselves to.

If the death was associated with some tragic event, a murder, accident, rape, came unexpected, or the soul as a result of the death was traumatised and confused, there is a chance that it will remain close to the place where that event took place or find another location or object that will be in some way comforting to them. It could be a house, a street, an area, the scene of the accident or any other physical location or object they feel a pull towards. Many of the historic battlefields around the world still have strong presence of the spirits of men who died there and who have never moved on. We all have heard of “possessed” houses. It is a frightening prospect for most people, as there seem to be some invisible yet powerful forces at play in such places.  But what it really is, is that in such houses live one or more souls, who for some reason have never moved on. Most of the time the spirits will perceive the living occupants of the house as intruders and will try to use any available to them method to get rid of them. Because the occupants cannot see them, only feel their presence or see/hear the effects of it, they feel very frightened. Fortunately the vast majority of those entities are quite harmless and need not to be feared. They are usually more scared than us. They are confused, lonely and frustrated. They need to be helped to move on, as by living in our space their block the flow of energy (happiness, health, money, also often affecting heating and water systems in the house), but as entities, they are in no way negative.

But there is another group of spirits, who will not be looking for a place or an object to attach itself to. They will look for a host body, a living person, whom on some level they feel attracted to. This of course has nothing to do with physical attraction at all. The living person (host) must have something that acts like a magnet for the spirit. It could be an emotion, a belief system or personality trait that both the attaching spirit and the chosen host share in common. They might have similar life experiences, fears or insecurities. Such earth-bound souls are known as “spirit attachments”.

If the attachment has unresolved issues with anger for example, it will be drawn to a living person who also has issues with anger. The host can be aware of the anger within them or their anger could be suppressed. Either way anger will be the link between them and the attaching soul. In some cases (and short them) such a combination of host-attachment both dealing with anger could be beneficial, as both would have an opportunity to work on their unresolved issues. But long term it would not  be advisable for either of them. In some cases, even a short term “relationship” with an attachment, can prove quite damaging for the living person.

The host-selection process varies from soul to soul. Some souls will take time to select the most optimal host for them and wait for an appropriate time to join them. Other souls might rush more into their decisions and pick their host on the spur of the moment.

An entity can only enter the energy system or the body of a host when there is an opening, a weakening in it. When the energy, immune or emotional system of the host is down (overwhelming negative emotions, anger, sadness, despair, physical sickness, accident, etc.) that is the best time for an entity to sneak in.

Not all attachments are equally intrusive however. Some of them simply remain in the energy field of the person. That is as far as they need to go in order to receive comfort. Others however go much deeper, penetrating the physical body of a person, usually hooking into one specific area. In such cases, there are physical manifestations of their presence in the body – aches, pains, skin rashes, discomfort. The deeper the hook, the more profound the physical manifestations of their presence. There will also be emotional signs too, that will accompany their presence. The host might show some of the behaviour patterns belonging to the attachment. The host’s thoughts, habits and preferences might be affected.

As to the “age” of the attachments, depending on the time when their body died in the last incarnation, they vary from being as little as infants or even unborn babies to older children, teenagers, adults or even elderly people. Usually children will look for a mother-like figure, a person who can make them feel safe and loved. Adults might have more complex reasons for joining their host. In most cases however, the host is viewed as a safe shelter, a place where the lost soul can find some long longed for comfort.

There is no set time in our lives when we can “acquire” attachments. It can happen as much in the childhood as in teenage years or adulthood.

The following example shows that the process can take place at absolutely any stage of our development as human beings.

Following the trace of one of my clients’ attachments we were taken back to the time in the current life, when she was still in her mother’s womb. Anne-Marie was describing how she was grieving the death of her twin sister, who died as a result of a miscarriage while Anne-Marie survived in the womb. The two were soul mates, sharing a very strong connection, looking forward to entering this world together. Parting with her sister was very traumatic. But there was a lot more going on in Anne-Marie’s life at this stage. She was aware of her mother’s resentment towards her, as the unborn baby. She was also aware of the challenging lessons that she was to face in this life. It was a lot to deal with for a little soul. Her inner state of despair has opened doors to an entity called Suzan to join her. Anne-Marie always considered the bits that were Suzan as parts of herself, because of how early the attachment has joined her.

During my session with Anne-Marie, letting go of Suzan turned out to be a very profound experience, as that particular energy has been with Anne-Marie her entire life. For a number of days after the release she felt a sense of loss. It was almost as if a part of her has left, died.

Most attachments however, join us at later stages in our lives.

A typical person would have between one and five of them, although the numbers usually tend to vary significantly from person to person.

What is really interesting is the fact that in cases of a few attachments living within the same host body, I have yet to come across one that would communicate or interact with the others in any way. Even though they physically live within the same body, it’s almost as if they lived in completely different dimensions. Some of them will be aware of the fact that there are others like them inhabiting the same physical space, but there never seems to be any interaction between them.

Let’s look at the story of another one of my clients, a young man from the south of UK. While working on a current life issue we were taken back to a past life in Africa, in which he was a little black girl. Raped at a very young age, she was punished by the villagers for her lost purity and left to die in a jungle. Death came fast, she was eaten alive by a wild animal. There was so much confusion and trauma associated with the events leading up to her death and the death itself, that the soul of the little girl felt the need to remain in the forest and make sure that other girls do not meet the same fate.  She did not have to wait very long for her suspicions to be confirmed. Many other girls, most of them still children, have been abused in the same forest. She felt that it was almost her duty to help them. She would use all the tricks she had as a spirit to frighten the abusers and the forest soon came to be known as haunted. She became so engrossed in her duty to defend innocent girls, that centuries have passed, her soul had in the meantime other incarnations, but that part of her that was once the little girl remained until present time in the jungle to the point where during the session I was actually conversing with her still among the African trees. In order to heal the current life of the client, it was necessary to help that little girl to move on.

This story, as fascinating as it is, is in no way unique. Each of us would have at least one past life, where the incarnated fragment of the soul would remain earth-bound, despite the fact that the rest of the soul continued incarnating. A certain proportion of the readers of this article will to this day have fragments of their own energy scattered around the globe. It is always very important to unite those earth-bound fragments of our energy with the mother-soul.

I would now like to focus on a very sensitive area in relation to spirit attachments, but one that brings profound healing: miscarriages, stillbirth, abortions, or child loss in general. In some cases the longing from both the child and the mother to be together is such, that after the physical death the soul of the child remains within the energy or the body of the mother. In such cases, the healing process for the mother is slowed down significantly, as there is no closure. Long term, the soul of the child does not benefit from not moving on to the Light either. In case of multiple miscarriages it is quite common for some or all of the souls to remain with the mother.

Helping those children to move on is a very deeply moving  experience for both the mother and the child. This is the time when all the questions from both sides can be asked and answered, often for the first time. The process brings healing and closure to both. It also, in some cases, allows the child to be born into the same family again, this time taking on a different body. It is very reassuring for the mother to know that her beloved child has now safely crossed over, even though often consciously parting with them is very difficult.

It is important to stress that not all miscarriages, abortions and stillbirths result in the soul of the child becoming earth-bound. Yet, it is always worth checking if the child’s soul has safely made it to the other side. A general rule is that if the mother senses that there are still some unresolved emotional issues, trauma, or general lack of acceptance and/or recognition of the miscarriage/loss on her part extending beyond what is the natural grieving process, there is a probability that the child remains with her.

Another interesting area, still not very well researched in the context of spirit attachments, is that of people with schizophrenia and other mental illnesses. There are many therapists, including myself, who believe that at least some people with mental illnesses suffer from the effects of having entities within their body/ energy field, that they cannot control, but who often control them. I strongly believe that releasing such attachments would be greatly beneficial to them. For some this could be the end of their metal problems, for others, where many other factors are at play, this could mean a significant improvement in their condition. It is not always easy to work directly with people suffering from mental illness. But the fact that this work does not need to be carried on the patient himself, but can be done with the use of a proxy body (i.e. family member), opens a whole new field of opportunities and gives hope to people with mental problems.

Most of the entities that a normal person would attract would be quite harmless. Only a very, very small percentage would have as part of their agenda controlling and living through the host. In such cases, a combination of an emotionally/mentally weak living person, easily influenced by external factors and a disturbed, but strong-willed entity attaching itself to them, could easily produce catastrophic results for the host.

It is also worth mentioning that the use of drugs or experimenting with black magic very often lead to the host attracting some of the more disturbed souls. The best way of preventing it from happening is to steer clear of both.

Majority of people suffering from depression have a combination of spirit attachments making it more difficult to overcome the condition. In such cases depression itself can be the magnet attracting spirits with similar problems. Most of those attachments will consciously choose to remain in that state and will do a lot to keep the host in it as well. Removing those attachments makes coming out of the” black whole” easier for the host.

We need to be careful however not to start viewing attachments as the driving force behind every human problem or misfortune. It is important to remember that an attachment can only enter the energy system of a living person, if there is a leak, an opening in it, when the person is out of balance, feeling low, angry, depressed, sad, etc. The “problem” therefore must be already present within the host in order for an attachment to join them. The visiting soul only makes that problem more obvious.

It is possible to minimise the risk of attracting attachments. All that is required of us is that we live our lives consciously. Most of us seem to live on an autopilot, following busy daily schedules and routines. When the body refuses to co-operate with our plans, we simply take a tablet to push it even further, rather than stop and listen to what is it trying to tell us. We become our emotions and allow them to control us, instead of using them as a guidance system. We go through our lives without knowing our true selves. Some questions are very uncomfortable to ask, and so we push parts of ourselves into dark corners of denial. That is a recipe for disaster, a bomb waiting to explode. We need to bring our consciousness into our every action and thought. Take time to get to know who we are, what our deepest thoughts, desires and goals are, and never forget to have fun with it! Only by living consciously can we protect ourselves from any intrusive energies.

I hope that the readers of this article have gained a lot more knowledge on the fascinating topic of spirit attachments, but also came to realize that those beings are not to be feared of. They are mostly good but lonely, confused souls who need to be treated with gentleness, love and respect, as the only difference between them and us is the fact that we still have our physical body. And that is a very small difference indeed…